Life/Style

You need to accept yourself. Start today

Nishi AhlawatDecember 11, 2015 | 19:05 IST

Sometimes, we are deeply affected by even the most trivial things in life. We are trapped in the web of negativity. It seems as if there is no life, no tomorrow, no light, no sunrise. Everything looks futile.

This is the time when our inner self tries to communicate with us. If we listen to it, we get to see a ray of light amid the darkness.

Listen to your inner voice

"Fall seven times stand up eight."

"The season of failure is the best time to sow the seeds of success." Ah! How inspiring! Aren't they? But, how many of us take failure in our stride?

If you do, that's great. I don't.

I crib and curse the moment i make a mistake. I cry. I feel like giving up. I feel like punching the one who made me feel bad in the nose. But then, I pay heed to my inner voice; it says: breathe, you have to live. If you want to sit, you have to stand first; to smile, you have to cry; to feel the silence, you have to scream; to wake up, you have to sleep; to taste success, you have to fail. Simple!

Also read: Feel no shame. Wrong is sometimes right too

Take failure in your stride

We all face failure in our lives. We all lose hope and feel tired at some point of time. However, to learn, to earn, to strive and to survive, we have to move on. There is no other alternative.

Remember: Love brings happiness

Love your strengths but weaknesses too. Love your perfection but flaws too. Love yourself but learn to look at the world selflessly and love others too. It will bring you lasting happiness.

Treat everyone equally

We are all equal in the eyes of Ram, Allah, Jesus, Wahe Guru, the Supreme Power. We all have an eternal soul inside our mortal bodies. We are all the same. We are all little children on the inside. We all seek attention. We all want to be praised. But, we can't stand rejection. And, that's where we fail.

Learn to accept rejection and live with it. Remember, there's always a next time.

We are all unique

Don't forget that no matter how much you fall, you are still the most important person in someone else's eyes. And, that someone is "you". Who can judge you better than your own self?

What's right for you is left for the person standing on the other side. So, don't think about what others think of you. You are born with a unique purpose in life.

Stop competing with others. Your competition is with your own "self" only. See if you have learnt from your mistakes. See, if you are better than what you were yesterday.

Be grateful

Thank the world for telling you where you were wrong. This will show you the way to correct yourself. Thank the world for rejecting you. It gives you all the more reason to believe in yourself.

Thank the world for ignoring you. It makes you look more important in your own eyes. Thank the world for showing you "your place". That helps to keep you grounded.

Thank the world for not praising you. It keeps you cautious all the time. Thank the world for not accepting you the way you are. It makes you believe in yourself.

Accept yourself

Accept yourself the way you are. This does not mean that you do not want to change ever. Don't be dogmatic!

It means you can learn from all the negatives positively and strive to be a better person. Thank the world for teaching you "self acceptance" so that, today, you can be a better person than yesterday.

Last updated: December 11, 2015 | 20:34
IN THIS STORY
Read more!
Recommended Stories